Description
‘I want you to know that you matter just as much as your child does. If parenting generally has its ups and downs then fostering and adopting traumatised children is like strapping yourself in to the biggest and fastest roller-coaster in the world with no idea of where it is going to take you. Calm for moments, exciting and thrilling at times but downright scary in places too.’
Fi Newood is the foster-adopt mum of a sibling group of three who came to her in 2008. In this book she describes her struggles parenting her previously traumatised children and how she went from believing she couldn’t do it, to knowing that she could. Fi now works as an integrative psychotherapist, counsellor and trainer. She is the Co-Founder of a support service for foster and adoptive parents and the creator of the 3B’s therapeutic approach. This parenting and therapy model explores the themes of belonging, believing and behaving. It offers insight into the difficulties associated with foster and adoptive parenting as well as practical suggestions for moving forward. The 3B’s approach is relationship-focused and therefore takes into consideration the needs of the parent as well as the child. It is also integrative and so can be used to united different therapeutic parenting ideas and practices when needed.
Therapeutic Topics:
Therapeutic parenting, attachment, trauma, parent self-care, behaviour support.
Anon –
I found this book really easy to read. It reminded me that we are all human and fostering can be difficult, even at the best of times. There were some good practice examples and I loved the sharing of personal experiences. This not just for foster or adoptive parents this is a book all parents can read.
Adele –
Brilliant raw and honest account of learning how to become a therapeutic parent by Fi Newood. Will be extremely helpful to me in my work with post adoption support.